Online Dating at 36 - The Good, the Bad, & WTH?

It is said that things often come in threes. Celebrity deaths, for example. Or, "good things". The Holy Trinity, for the religious readers. Christians believe Jesus of Nazareth arose from the grave after three days. In numerology, the number 3 is associated with creativity and, at times youthful joy and impulsiveness. Many composers believe in certain "powers" of the keys of Eb and A -- each having 3 of their respective sharps or flats in the key signature. So far today, I've had two. Two reminders of the past. Very unexpected ones, and not necessarily unpleasant. The first came at 9:15 or so this morning. I was on my phone working on an email to my boss. Suddenly a text message appeared! Although my phone is quieter in this A.D. period (After D), texts aren't completely  rare. However, the person texting me hadn't texted in 14 months. We hadn't otherwise communicated in at least 8 or 10. You would have to go back practically to the beginning o

D's son got married today. I've known "the kids" as long as I've known D. Literally. I met them on my first date with D. I was supposed to provide the music for their lakeside ceremony -- my gift to them not only as great people but also a couple doing a wedding on a raggedy shoestring budget. Instead, as they were exchanging vows, I was recoloring my hair. Any regrets? Nope. I was just touching up the areas that didn't take as well the first time. Oh wait, I was talking about missing the kids' wedding. Okay, because they are special people, perhaps I have a tinge of regret. But that is quickly assuaged by the thought of having to see not only D, but both  of his ex-wives -- something that would only be funny as a side scene in a slapstick comedy like "The Hangover". It was some two months ago that D … ended everything. Unexpectedly. Violently. The last time we "talked", he called me up to cuss me out. After that "conversat