Just Like That... Poof.
Things seemed to be going really well. The gentleman I talked of in my previous post, we were texting, flirting. On paper, we seemed like a great match. Over texting, everything seemed to be going well.
Until I kept pressing to actually meet him.
Those who know of the stalked saga would understand why I have some trust issues with guys I meet online. Until we've met in person, I take everything a guy tells me with a grain of salt. So if I haven't met you, I'm going to be skeptical.
The texting was going fine until his side started getting... monotonous. He has a slightly freaky sexual side that I'm okay with; frankly it's something that is not uncommon. But the texts focused on that. He claimed to be looking for a long term relationship, not a hookup, but only texted about sex. Sent me images from porn sites, wanted me to do the same.
He also said he wanted me to be in control, be the alpha female. So I told him, based on what he'd told me about his schedule, when we were meeting. Asked for a confirmation. That was 27+ hours ago and I still haven't gotten a response to that or any other text. So I told him I wasn't giving up on him BUT I'm not going to keep texting someone that doesn't make the time to respond.
His loss.
So today before I hit the gym I was chatting with a couple other guys. For sake of both anonymity and keeping them straight, let's call them T-1, T-2, etc. T-1 would be the aforementioned guy.
T-2 and I hit it off chatting and he asked if I used a hangout app of any kind. I do, but I made sure to give him my somewhat anonymous one and not the one I've used for business meetings. We chatted on that for a while while I was at the gym and he was at work. He asked a question I'm not comfortable answering (see: stalker) so I disclosed to him that I don't share much personal info like that until I've met someone. I briefly explained the stalker. He asked more questions about the stalker, so I answered. Haven't heard from him since, and he's disappeared from Tinder which means, most likely, he "unmatched" us. Now, he could just be busy at work. Ever the dating pessimist, I think he's one I can check off the list. The only reason I would think he might not have "unmatched" us is because there's a lot about the app he didn't know. But, "unmatching" isn't that hard to figure out, either.
But there's also T-3. We're still in the chatting-on-Tinder phase. Divorced, one kid. Recently out of a 5 month long relationship. Attorney, roughly my age. Will this go anywhere? I have no idea. He seems nice but I'm not convinced of the physical attraction. Then again, I've been regularly told I'm more attractive in person than my photos, so.... who knows.
Why does dating have to be so hard?
Until I kept pressing to actually meet him.
Those who know of the stalked saga would understand why I have some trust issues with guys I meet online. Until we've met in person, I take everything a guy tells me with a grain of salt. So if I haven't met you, I'm going to be skeptical.
The texting was going fine until his side started getting... monotonous. He has a slightly freaky sexual side that I'm okay with; frankly it's something that is not uncommon. But the texts focused on that. He claimed to be looking for a long term relationship, not a hookup, but only texted about sex. Sent me images from porn sites, wanted me to do the same.
He also said he wanted me to be in control, be the alpha female. So I told him, based on what he'd told me about his schedule, when we were meeting. Asked for a confirmation. That was 27+ hours ago and I still haven't gotten a response to that or any other text. So I told him I wasn't giving up on him BUT I'm not going to keep texting someone that doesn't make the time to respond.
His loss.
So today before I hit the gym I was chatting with a couple other guys. For sake of both anonymity and keeping them straight, let's call them T-1, T-2, etc. T-1 would be the aforementioned guy.
T-2 and I hit it off chatting and he asked if I used a hangout app of any kind. I do, but I made sure to give him my somewhat anonymous one and not the one I've used for business meetings. We chatted on that for a while while I was at the gym and he was at work. He asked a question I'm not comfortable answering (see: stalker) so I disclosed to him that I don't share much personal info like that until I've met someone. I briefly explained the stalker. He asked more questions about the stalker, so I answered. Haven't heard from him since, and he's disappeared from Tinder which means, most likely, he "unmatched" us. Now, he could just be busy at work. Ever the dating pessimist, I think he's one I can check off the list. The only reason I would think he might not have "unmatched" us is because there's a lot about the app he didn't know. But, "unmatching" isn't that hard to figure out, either.
But there's also T-3. We're still in the chatting-on-Tinder phase. Divorced, one kid. Recently out of a 5 month long relationship. Attorney, roughly my age. Will this go anywhere? I have no idea. He seems nice but I'm not convinced of the physical attraction. Then again, I've been regularly told I'm more attractive in person than my photos, so.... who knows.
Why does dating have to be so hard?
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