Some Days, You Have Mojo. Some Days, You Don't.
For pretty much the first time since I rejoined Match, I have an evening at home. It is raining outside with the occasional roll of thunder. I have a tummy full of food happily sloshing around in a giant beer bath. The kitties are around - one is snuggled up next to me - and all is well with the world. In my dimly yet warmly lit living room, I can sit and blog.
The first 5 days on Match were, well, busy. My inbox has 27 emails in it. A few are replies to my replies, but I've probably heard from 20 guys, not including the winks and those who have "liked" my pictures. (Seriously, is there anything Facebook has NOT influenced?) Then there was the enjoyable hour I spent at a local restaurant. Not feeling up to magically creating something from a mostly-bare larder and not desiring to go grocery shopping when it is raining, I decided a beer and chicken tenders would be just what the doctor ordered. They came with a side of reasonably cute waiter turning on the hard-core charm in a harmlessly fun way. Mix in the texts from the ex (even though questionably appropriate, it still was a compliment), and I've had a pretty good weekend for my ego.
But because we all love wrecks - really, who watches NASCAR for the driving? We watch it for the crashes - first up I shall share some of the more amazing emails I've gotten this week. These are UNEDITED.
Amazing Email #1
"Hello, you have a cool profile. Have you played in any symphonies? Also, does your compamy sell alto sax sheet music?"
Commentary: First of all, a 46 year old man probably shouldn't describe a profile as "cool." Secondly, my screen name says "Singer," and I have a pic of a piano up, too. Asking if I've played in any symphonies is a nice try at seeming knowledgeable about my career field, but I'm not impressed. But, I am impressed by typos. They aren't a huge pet peeve of mine or anything. (*sarcasm*)
Amazing Email #2
"Hi. I'm ________. Your profile and pics look great. Mine needs work I know. Very new to this. Hope your day is great."
Commentary: Boys and girls, today in third grade we're going to learn about compound sentences! And basic punctuation beyond the period! I've said it before, if your email reads like a "Dick and Jane" book, I'm not going to be scintillated.
Amazing Email #3
"Hello, Gorgeous pics. I like your profile, this weather should make anyone smile. If you would like to text; here is my #xxx-xxx-xxxx. Perhaps we'll talk soon :) Cheers _____"
Commentary: My Facebook friends will sort of recognize this as the email coming from the gentleman sporting the 1970's-esque "porn 'stache." Oh, yeah. Bow chicka bow-wow. And now we'll continue our lesson on compound sentences and those pesky commas and semi-colons. Then we'll address the fact that apparently my name is "Gorgeous pics." After that, we'll discuss the wisdom of giving one's cell number to a complete stranger whose name you don't even know.
Amazing Email #4
"Good morning sweetheart you are very beautiful. Check out my profile"
Commentary: You're 55 years old, and you apparently don't know what a run-on sentence is. Then let's just stop and think about calling a complete stranger "sweetheart." You don't know anything about me, really, and you're calling me "sweetheart?" And then you just tell me to check out your profile? Moving along...
Amazing Email #5
"Hi [my screen name], I'm _____. I saw your profile and I'm interested in getting to know you. I think we will get along well and look forward to hearing from you."
Commentary: Okay, this email in and of itself isn't that bad. But this gentleman is a conservative male with a high school education who lists his body type as "a few extra pounds" (ha) and "never" exercises. I list my political leanings as "middle of the road" (really, I'm liberal, but there's a subculture to Match), I have a graduate degree, I'm ABD on my doctorate, and I work for a gym. Yep, we sound like we'd get along just great! How did he know?! *eye roll*
Amazing Email #6
"I loved your profile, was wondering what is your favorite sheet music you like to play on your piano. What is your favorite Boulevard beet, do you like the chocolate ale or are you more a wheat girl, me I like the dark beers. Love to chat."
Commentary: Boulevard makes beets? Funny, I love Boulevard, but I hate beets. (Boulevard is a local beer brewery, for those not from the area.) And again, we have another attempt at trying to speak the language of my career, but missing the mark. Of course, we can't forget the amazing run-on sentence. But I will admit, it is a fine line between the compound sentence and the run-on. Pesky grammar.
Amazing Email #7
This one isn't really about an amazing email, it's about the person who sent it. I know him from the last time I was on Match, over a year ago. We went on three dates, and it ended there by mutual, unspoken agreement. He didn't really recognize me until I replied saying, "not to make this any more awkward, but you and I went on a few dates last time I was on Match and we didn't really click..." He replied to that and we exchanged a couple friendly war-story type emails before wishing each other luck and moving along.
However, through the frogs there are a couple of princes. Time to meet our first round of candidates!
Bachelor #1: K
K is a 49 year old small business owner and a former middle school principal. He's divorced, has been for several years, and has two grown children. We went from emails to a phone call, which was nice. It didn't leave me all twitterpated, but at the same time it didn't leave me with a sense of the creeps. It was simply a very nice conversation between two people getting to know each other and setting up a date. Originally the date was supposed to be right now, but he texted this morning asking to reschedule. So, we are meeting tomorrow before my concert call for a cocktail at a place I haven't been to, but I've been told it's very nice. I like what I see in the pictures but with him listing his height at 5'8", I'll be going in low shoes. I'm only 5'3", but I've been on dates with guys who have listed their height as one thing only for me to discover they're actually a couple inches shorter.
Bachelor #2: S
This one has surprised me a bit. He emailed with little more than a "looking good, fyi" line, but after checking out his profile I thought there was no harm in taking a chance and replying. See, because of the guarantee most Match members have on their plans, there is a percentage of emails that get sent that don't want a reply. They've been sent so the member can check off their required number of contacts. So I replied to him, and didn't hear back until a couple hours ago. His reply was a bit more extensive, and flat out asked me if I'd like to meet for a drink or something. I'm interested, so I flat out said yes. This one is a 40 year old never-married gentleman, who based on his pics I suspect is a member of the biggest loser club (like me). Some of his pics he looks almost too skinny, but pics can be deceiving. Oh, and he's 6'5". Yes. 14 inches taller than me. I might need a ladder with this one, even in some of my stilts!
It's only been since Wednesday. 5 days. I haven't gone through my Daily Matches in 2 days because I haven't had time. It's a promising start, but I know things will slow down and, at some point, taper off for a while. Of course, I'm not putting all my eggs in the Match basket, either. If I meet someone through other channels, bring it on!
Until then, to paraphrase Dory from "Finding Nemo," just keep blogging!
The first 5 days on Match were, well, busy. My inbox has 27 emails in it. A few are replies to my replies, but I've probably heard from 20 guys, not including the winks and those who have "liked" my pictures. (Seriously, is there anything Facebook has NOT influenced?) Then there was the enjoyable hour I spent at a local restaurant. Not feeling up to magically creating something from a mostly-bare larder and not desiring to go grocery shopping when it is raining, I decided a beer and chicken tenders would be just what the doctor ordered. They came with a side of reasonably cute waiter turning on the hard-core charm in a harmlessly fun way. Mix in the texts from the ex (even though questionably appropriate, it still was a compliment), and I've had a pretty good weekend for my ego.
But because we all love wrecks - really, who watches NASCAR for the driving? We watch it for the crashes - first up I shall share some of the more amazing emails I've gotten this week. These are UNEDITED.
Amazing Email #1
"Hello, you have a cool profile. Have you played in any symphonies? Also, does your compamy sell alto sax sheet music?"
Commentary: First of all, a 46 year old man probably shouldn't describe a profile as "cool." Secondly, my screen name says "Singer," and I have a pic of a piano up, too. Asking if I've played in any symphonies is a nice try at seeming knowledgeable about my career field, but I'm not impressed. But, I am impressed by typos. They aren't a huge pet peeve of mine or anything. (*sarcasm*)
Amazing Email #2
"Hi. I'm ________. Your profile and pics look great. Mine needs work I know. Very new to this. Hope your day is great."
Commentary: Boys and girls, today in third grade we're going to learn about compound sentences! And basic punctuation beyond the period! I've said it before, if your email reads like a "Dick and Jane" book, I'm not going to be scintillated.
Amazing Email #3
"Hello, Gorgeous pics. I like your profile, this weather should make anyone smile. If you would like to text; here is my #xxx-xxx-xxxx. Perhaps we'll talk soon :) Cheers _____"
Commentary: My Facebook friends will sort of recognize this as the email coming from the gentleman sporting the 1970's-esque "porn 'stache." Oh, yeah. Bow chicka bow-wow. And now we'll continue our lesson on compound sentences and those pesky commas and semi-colons. Then we'll address the fact that apparently my name is "Gorgeous pics." After that, we'll discuss the wisdom of giving one's cell number to a complete stranger whose name you don't even know.
Amazing Email #4
"Good morning sweetheart you are very beautiful. Check out my profile"
Commentary: You're 55 years old, and you apparently don't know what a run-on sentence is. Then let's just stop and think about calling a complete stranger "sweetheart." You don't know anything about me, really, and you're calling me "sweetheart?" And then you just tell me to check out your profile? Moving along...
Amazing Email #5
"Hi [my screen name], I'm _____. I saw your profile and I'm interested in getting to know you. I think we will get along well and look forward to hearing from you."
Commentary: Okay, this email in and of itself isn't that bad. But this gentleman is a conservative male with a high school education who lists his body type as "a few extra pounds" (ha) and "never" exercises. I list my political leanings as "middle of the road" (really, I'm liberal, but there's a subculture to Match), I have a graduate degree, I'm ABD on my doctorate, and I work for a gym. Yep, we sound like we'd get along just great! How did he know?! *eye roll*
Amazing Email #6
"I loved your profile, was wondering what is your favorite sheet music you like to play on your piano. What is your favorite Boulevard beet, do you like the chocolate ale or are you more a wheat girl, me I like the dark beers. Love to chat."
Commentary: Boulevard makes beets? Funny, I love Boulevard, but I hate beets. (Boulevard is a local beer brewery, for those not from the area.) And again, we have another attempt at trying to speak the language of my career, but missing the mark. Of course, we can't forget the amazing run-on sentence. But I will admit, it is a fine line between the compound sentence and the run-on. Pesky grammar.
Amazing Email #7
This one isn't really about an amazing email, it's about the person who sent it. I know him from the last time I was on Match, over a year ago. We went on three dates, and it ended there by mutual, unspoken agreement. He didn't really recognize me until I replied saying, "not to make this any more awkward, but you and I went on a few dates last time I was on Match and we didn't really click..." He replied to that and we exchanged a couple friendly war-story type emails before wishing each other luck and moving along.
However, through the frogs there are a couple of princes. Time to meet our first round of candidates!
Bachelor #1: K
K is a 49 year old small business owner and a former middle school principal. He's divorced, has been for several years, and has two grown children. We went from emails to a phone call, which was nice. It didn't leave me all twitterpated, but at the same time it didn't leave me with a sense of the creeps. It was simply a very nice conversation between two people getting to know each other and setting up a date. Originally the date was supposed to be right now, but he texted this morning asking to reschedule. So, we are meeting tomorrow before my concert call for a cocktail at a place I haven't been to, but I've been told it's very nice. I like what I see in the pictures but with him listing his height at 5'8", I'll be going in low shoes. I'm only 5'3", but I've been on dates with guys who have listed their height as one thing only for me to discover they're actually a couple inches shorter.
Bachelor #2: S
This one has surprised me a bit. He emailed with little more than a "looking good, fyi" line, but after checking out his profile I thought there was no harm in taking a chance and replying. See, because of the guarantee most Match members have on their plans, there is a percentage of emails that get sent that don't want a reply. They've been sent so the member can check off their required number of contacts. So I replied to him, and didn't hear back until a couple hours ago. His reply was a bit more extensive, and flat out asked me if I'd like to meet for a drink or something. I'm interested, so I flat out said yes. This one is a 40 year old never-married gentleman, who based on his pics I suspect is a member of the biggest loser club (like me). Some of his pics he looks almost too skinny, but pics can be deceiving. Oh, and he's 6'5". Yes. 14 inches taller than me. I might need a ladder with this one, even in some of my stilts!
It's only been since Wednesday. 5 days. I haven't gone through my Daily Matches in 2 days because I haven't had time. It's a promising start, but I know things will slow down and, at some point, taper off for a while. Of course, I'm not putting all my eggs in the Match basket, either. If I meet someone through other channels, bring it on!
Until then, to paraphrase Dory from "Finding Nemo," just keep blogging!
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